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godged0012 · Joined: 05 May 2007 Posts: 4

Are you expecting a taylor made answer?

MaryB1534 · Joined: 11 May 2003 Posts: 8

God gave me (a woman) talents, intelligence, abilities and such and I believe that if I don't develop these things, and use them to serve mankind (all people, not just men) as I would serve Christ, then I am not honoring God or His will. Isn't there something in that Bible that says something like "Whatever you do unto another, you do unto Me?"

robbie8322 · Joined: 11 Sep 2007 Posts: 5

It sounds like you have not discovered yet that the role/attitude of women in Christianity is a positive and fulfilling thing. You don't understand how that can be. Your natural inclination is to think selfishly rather than being the supporter half of a team of two. That doesn't mean you allow anyone to look down on you, however. There are lots of great books on this. Elizabeth Elliot is an excellent author on this topic.

Jett · Joined: 30 Aug 2005 Posts: 3

I don't know what kind of church you are going to, but I suggest you shop around.First of all, a Christian is not supposed to labor under a burden of guilt. That comes from Satan, a tool to control you. When you are saved, your sins are remembered by God no more.Read your Bible. You will find that strong women play very significant roles in both old and new testaments. And if there are any doubts remaining for you, then remember this: Jesus said that in Heaven there will be no male or female, but we will all be the same, like the angels. If God considered women so spiritually inferior, then why will we be elevated to the same status as men in Heaven? Obviously, because we are the same before God now. You need to consider leaving the church where you are now for a strong, Bible-based church that will encourage you to fulfill your full potential as a Godly woman. They are out there, I know, because I found one. God bless you, sister!**Please reconsider removing the question. It may be beneficial for somebody else to read and think about. Ignore the inappropriate responses. They always have to horn in on the questions directed to Christians. Sometimes I think atheists have more zeal for conversion than we do.

oj · Joined: 30 Sep 2006 Posts: 6

High confidence and self-esteem are important. You don't have to be a passive submissive woman. Don't feel guilty! Working together through this life with a signifigant other will hopefully enhance your experiance here on Earth. Just because you are a woman doesn't mean you have to lie down and become nothing. You can be a supporting loving wife. A man needs a woman as much as a woman needs a man. You have the power to make this life great...but do not rely on someone else to make you happy. You have to be able to take care of yourself and not rely on a man to do it for you! For my job (security) I was told I was a non-traditional female. I have also been told that I am the bread winner. So what if I make more money then my signifigant other. We take care of eachother...it doesn't just work one way. Smile

JohnnyRocker89 · Joined: 18 Nov 2006 Posts: 8

It is good to feel remorseful for harm that we intentionally or through negligence do to others. That kind of remorse shows that we understand the harm we did and that we are able to see things from others' points of view. This understanding is necessary for us to feel love.However, feeling guilt for things you have no control over is wrong (but human) and harmful to you. That includes things like survivor's guilt.As for the whole issue of being a female Christian--Remember that the Bible was written a long, long time ago, when attitudes about the expected behavior of women and men were very different from the way they are today. In Biblical times, women were usually not as well educated as men, and it was the husband whose earnings supported the household.Nowadays, women are educated equally as well as men, and many women also have jobs. While a husband and wife should respect each other, a woman of today should not automatically submit to her husband, expecially if he is harming her or their family. As a person living on this planet, you have the right and the obligation to stand up for yourself and your children.

john_mcd_77 · Joined: 30 Mar 2006 Posts: 6

I am a Christian as well. Guilt can be a good thing, but what you have to realize is, its not just you who sins. Everyone is a sinner (except for God and Jesus). When you sin, pray for forgiveness. Everyone can mess up. The bible says god will forgive your sins.

samdugan · Joined: 07 Jan 2005 Posts: 4

First, let me say, I understand. You are not wrong. I would like to address the issue of gender roles first. I loved the book and now J. Lee Grady has a website on "10 Lies the Church Tells Women." The article is located at the website: http://godswordtowomen.org/studies/articlesHis views made me feel that God does have a purpose for women other than submission to men and staying at home. It is great. Really as Christians we are to be submissive to each other, not just men.Next, guilt is only helpful when it leads us to ask forgiveness for our sin. Once we have asked forgiveness we are not to feel guilty about the sin. You cannot walk around feeling guilty or you are not effective for Christ. We are to feel the freedom and love He gave us, freedom and pardon for our sins.Romans 8:1 and 2So now there is no condemnation for those who belong to Christ Jesus. 2 For the power of the life-giving Spirit has freed you through Christ Jesus from the power of sin that leads to death.I hope this helps. My prayers are with you.

smokindadozer420 · Joined: 12 Sep 2004 Posts: 3

You sound like you have a wonderful relationship with God. I feel like God is probably well pleased in you. Do not let any man or woman tell you how to feel. Go in prayer through the Holy Ghost and He will show you the way. It takes time to learn how to "LISTEN" to the Holy Ghost. It is something you get better at with time. To answer your question about high confidence and self-esteem, be careful not to let pride play a part in what you do.Just be sure in whatever you do that God receives the Glory.God bless you and keep the attitude you have and you'll be fine. James chapter 4 verse 9-10Be afflicted, and mourn, and weep: let your laughter be turned to mourning, and your joy to heaviness.Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and He shall lift you up.

vote_usa_first · Joined: 14 Apr 2005 Posts: 2

maybe its the church you go to that teaches that women are at fault more than man..i personally do not see that in the Bible. "there is therefore no condemnation to those who walk after the spirit and not the flesh".a christan might commit sin but "the sinful nature is passed away, behold all things are new and they are of God."gender roles within the Bible are favorable to the woman. for instance.. to the man that teaches. it says. "they have the greater condemnation" if they teach it wrong..the woman is not to "submit to men" just because of their gender or their position of leadership.. but will be gladly willing to submit to the godly man who lives according to the example that Christ gave.read it. there were several women who wanted to support Jesus and be near as he ministered in God's love to hurting people.a prostitute woman heard him and came to pour expensive perfume on his feet and thereafter be near and support him... now we know that women dont usually do that with just any man. unless he is decent, considerate, and gracious to women..God isnt requiring any woman to be passively submissive. He wants women who know who they are and what they can do.. and do it for God. (godly self esteem and confidence)i subscribe to teaching that honors women and encourages input from them..