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Jim · Joined: 24 Apr 2006 Posts: 5

I am a stupid shell of a man who had an affair that led to my divorce of 10 years. I am currently living with the woman from the affair and her 2 kids. I had no where to go at the time, and she offered me to move in. I have been here for about 10 months now and for the first time in my life, i am questioning everything i am doing. I love this woman, but am wondering if i need to move out and be on my own and figure my life out. I must have something wrong with me, because i feel 2 faced all the time. i love to laugh and have fun with them, but don't feel like i should be here.I and so scared and confused. i get up in the morning to go to work just to get out and away from the house. the biggest problem, is that she is so in love with me-wants to spend her life with me- finally got it right this time with me, that i am scared to bring up the thought of me leaving again. i pray to God everyday that she might see how unhappy i am on the inside. please pray and help me.

Fish · Joined: 13 Sep 2005 Posts: 3

I would think that if you are not happy, then you should talk with her explain your feelings and go from there.

Lynn · Joined: 27 Oct 2005 Posts: 5

If you TRULY love this woman and want to be happy then you must Marry her.Make a commitment and love her as God wants you to. Simple really if you really love her..Well do you? Be a Man and do God's will and not your own.. I promise you will be happy, love never fails,there is no fear in love.

BrunetteBabe · Joined: 22 Nov 2006 Posts: 4

You have made some terrible mistakes in your life, but it is now time to move on. I think you need to get out and look at where you want to go from here. If she really love you she will wait and give you time to sort your life out. Everyone has that right. Tell her you appreciat all that she has done, but you just need some time, and don't let the cryng get to you, you have to do something right for yourself now. If you are not happy life is to short to live this way.. God Bless you..

godged2322 · Joined: 01 May 2005 Posts: 6

That affair was fun in the beginning to you because you and the other woman had all the good times without the hassle of day to day living. Now, it's a real relationship and you have too many issues going on to be with this woman.You're not good for this woman either, you don't have it together enough to give your all to her, it's time to move out and on, sure she will be hurt, but it's better than you cheating on her too. Besides, the kids will be getting really attached to you the longer you stay there.Be unselfish for once and move out, give yourself time alone to figure out what you really want.

RickB9658 · Joined: 29 Jan 2004 Posts: 7

I 've never been married, but I have cheated on a girlfriend before.It's all good, you just need to sit and think my man.Did the women your living with now know you were married when you began your affair with her?If the answer is "Yes", you should definetly get out while you can, stay on good terms so you can still see her when you need. Look at this way if this woman knew you were married, and still parcipated in an affair with you, how serious do you think she would take a long-term relationship, people do fall out of love.If the answer " No", then get an apartment and continue seeing her, but at the same time see multiple women if you can, this will let you realize what you want, need, and desire.If you want to live in her house, you will probable have to commit to her, but be careful living with a women is like playing with fire, especially if she offered for you to move in, b/c if something goes wrong, she can hold it over head during any sort of argument.good luck, you just need time to think.

chezzrob · Joined: 31 Dec 2003 Posts: 7

listen to suthern yankee----figure urself out b4 u hurt her too.