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bostonianinmo5896 · Joined: 27 Sep 2006 Posts: 4

im having really bad problems at home with my dad. he is violating real bad. i know im 18 and old enough to care for myself, but i have no money. i can get a job but i dont even have money to get to a job interview. my dad is never home he works so much. my parents are separated and my mom is living with my sister who is having her own financial burdens. my mom is chronically ill with a lung condition. it is hard for her to maintain a job. she is caring for her twin grand daughters that were just born 2 months ago on saturday. my mom got no money no car no benefits to go to a doctor.. im on my own basically just living with my dad. i was wondering if there was any financial help with human services that i can file for to get on my feet so i can start a job easier, fix up my credit card, maybe get a car, and find a small cheap place for me and my mother. my relatives have all their own problems and the ones who dont, dont really help they think we can do it on our own but they reallydont see how bad it is. i suffer from post traumatic stress from my miserable jerk-off father driving my mother and sister out and being stuck alone with him which is my biggest fear. my mom been trying to make it better but she cant get on her feet. she never meant to make it worse. advice anyone? is there anyone out there like in human services wise that would be able to help me on my feet?im also seeing a psycologist and soon a psychiatrist cuz of my depression and post traumatic stress. i have panic/ anxiety attacks on a daily basis. IM ONLY 18. i been told alot that i might be bipolar I. i will soon be diagnosed with that or manic depressant. this is not helping anything.

DOUBLENET5265 · Joined: 01 Aug 2007 Posts: 6

too many issues to deal with at once, but I would say that surrounding yourself with good friends, successful people, and the like will make the biggest change in your life. Its hard to get out of a lifestyle that was imposed upon you. You have to work very hard, but the reward is well worth it. I came from a similar background and at 25 have all the things that I never did growing up. Good luck

FrederickM · Joined: 01 Jan 2005 Posts: 3

If you file for welfare they need to who else lives in the house, their income and their assets. If you lie you can go to jail so I think you're stuck unless you can find something else. If your Dad is really making you feel unsafe you might try a women's shelter. They have some services to help people get on their feet and get started. However no one is going to help with cars and credit cards.

acermill4112 · Joined: 22 Jun 2005 Posts: 3

I would also advice you to check out a womens center if you really do feel unsafe. or atleast to get information on how you can work to get on your own feet. Do your best to find a job that is near where you live, possibly within walking distance. I'm sorry if you have already thought of that iand it's just not an option. Getting a job is really important as the first step. Also creating a support system for yourself by making friends , this would also give you something else to do instead of worrying about things with family all of the time.

GeraldS · Joined: 23 Feb 2005 Posts: 8

Wow. That's alot to sort through. First off if living with your dad makes you uncomfortable then you need to do whatever you can to get out of there. I don't think at 18 filing for welfare is going to help you any. You may get too used to not working and just live off of that. Too many people in this world are wasting their lives because the government will pay for them to sit on their butts all day. Is there somewhere that you can go and work that is within walking distance? Do you have a friend that would possibly drive you? As far as the disorders that you are suffering from....I'd say surround yourself with good friends and people with positive outlooks on life and other situations. Try to stay away from stress and sadness. I'm sure that there are support groups with other young ladies like yourself that you may want to attend. You might meet some great friends there that really understand where you are comming from.

RachelT · Joined: 30 Jul 2004 Posts: 3

Unfortunately, like many young adults who find themselves in debt and learning about life too quickly, there really isn't much available other than going out and getting a job. Having money has nothing to do with getting a job interview; it has to do with how well you work with others, and how experienced you are. If one application doesn't go through, try another place, or keep trying the same place. Call three days after submitting an application: it shows you are interested in the job and may get you an interview.Unfortunately welfare seems to be available only to low-income families, not individuals. Unless you have a dependent child, you cannot get welfare.You can try to submit something to unemployment. However, this is temporary, and they usually help you out only until you find a job. They may stop paying you if you don't find one within an allotted time.If there's only somewhere retail that pays minimum wage, do it anyway. Some money is better than none, right? And while you gain experience there, you'll be able to try for other jobs that pay more.Best way to get out of this situation is save, save, save...as long as you budget yourself, save up for what you need, you'll be able to move out. It may take some time, but as they say: Rome wasn't built in a day.I'm also someone who deals with depression and an anxiety/panic disorder. I know how hard it can be to go out and talk to people, to work...but sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do. A psychiatrist, and possibly medication, may help, but it also has to do a lot with you and your will to be successful. It's hard, but think of how proud of yourself you can be when you get that first paycheck.

soldit4them · Joined: 26 Jan 2005 Posts: 5

You are 18 and you dad is never home because he works so much? That sounds like the perfect time to go get a job. Even if you could get on welfare, why would you? That is a dead-end road. Do you really want to live off of everyone else? That's a horrible way to start your adult life. You might want to look into a job training program. There are plenty of those out there that will train you for a decent job.