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MaryB4120 · Joined: 27 Mar 2004 Posts: 5

I've been hanging out with this girl for awhile (6-7 months) and I thought maybe she liked me. She always dressed nice when we went out, offered me dinner a few times (as in home cooked), and acted very nervous and giggly around me, talked about what she wanted in a relationship, and was open about sex. She'd hang out with me alone, calling me to walk dogs or watch a movie or something, it seemed great. So I finally work up the nerve to say I like her and she says she knows and just wants to be friends. Well, that was disappointing but I moved on. I didn't call her or anything and then lo and behold she calls me today for coffee, but I was busy (school assignments, end of the semester kind of thing, college sucks) and offered to go at a later time (which didn't work out, she said she was just staying in and watching TV)That's fine, but my question is this...after she knew I liked her she acted the same way she always did, was she leading me on or what, and then she calls me first.She would get me to sit next to her on benches and things, but would then scoot away if I sat close saying she wanted to give me room. She would say this nervously and awkwardly. I've had close girl friends that didn't do that. So that's confusing too. A few times this girl brought up that I didn't call her about something, sometimes I didn't even know i was supposed to. Could some of this stem from the fact I met her through her ex boyfriend of like 4-5 years. I know she dated him since high school and they messed around awhile after the breakup. She said because of this she doesn't know how to flirt with guys. Seriously what's up with this girl.Actually she's a VERY shy girl, as in at parties she just sits there and stares, too scared to talk to people.Actually she's a VERY shy girl, as in at parties she just sits there and stares, too scared to talk to people.How would one go about "playing back"?

jhl · Joined: 04 Oct 2005 Posts: 5

it seems like she's just a flirty girl. from what youve said it looks like she values your friendship, and didnt want things to change between you guys. that's why she's acting the same. the whole thing about her calling you first doesn't mean anything because she probably has called you before.

hm_pearl · Joined: 20 Mar 2004 Posts: 2

Girls are always mysterious aren't they. It's funny they act as if they don't need you until you stop begging at their feet then they realize what they miss. She may not be leading you on intentionally, but I think she is also confused about you... Maybe you should talk to her about how all of this has made you feel

be_a_lert · Joined: 08 May 2006 Posts: 6

Well there can be several reason behind her not accepting u. may be very bad experience be one. give her a timemay be 2-3 more month stay normal if she declines then take a decision

kemperk7199 · Joined: 10 Aug 2005 Posts: 4

its not about the x bofriend and yah she knows how to flirt your her friend she dosent want anything more

red · Joined: 17 May 2004 Posts: 4

She's playing games with you. And knowing that you like her and are falling for it is a huge power trip for her. Things could work out between the two of you if you really tried at it, but the chances are more likely that she would get bored because there is no more "chase." Yes girls like the "chase" too. So it's up to you if you want to try to date this girl or if you want to accept her as just your friend (period. No matter what).Sounds like it's time for you to start playing back or forfeit.Good luck.

AznStylez707 · Joined: 23 Feb 2004 Posts: 5

First mistake ....you waited too long to move to the next level.She realize 'your status' in 5 SECONDS<friend/lover>.She wanted a man...not a house cat.Second mistake....you expressed your feeling to her.You took away your mystery.Does he like me?She backed away with... the 'friends' statement.<definition...i will***NOT*** have sex with you.>She called you for coffee because she wanted a 'friend' at her convenience.<when you wanted a friend she wanted to watch tv.>She showed her true colors.Be a gentlemen, leave, never call her again.Be bright/chipper when you see her,but..'go to go.'Sad, but this one did not work out....move on.There is a pretty girl out there who will appreciate you.Good Luck.dgnyc